Shyness has a lot to do with feeling uncomfortable around other people, and this can happen to both extroverts and introverts. Everyone experiences shyness from time to time, be it when asking someone on a date, or when delivering a speech at a wedding. However, if you are shy all the time, it can create serious problems at work and in private life. Here is some advice on how to overcome shyness and enjoy your life.
If you are shy when approaching others, learn how to start a conversation as well as how to lead a good conversation. Watch others do it and pay attention to what works so that you can try it yourself. Be friendly and approachable with people, smile and speak clearly and sensibly. As funny as it seems, talking in front of the mirror as a practice helps a lot.
Telling people you are shy can also help, since they will usually do everything to help you feel comfortable, especially if they were also shy and managed to overcome it.
If you have a problem with talking to the opposite sex, bear in mind that you are not alone in this. That beautiful girl you have been looking at for weeks might as well have been looking at you being as shy as yourself. Instead of wasting any more time and losing precious opportunities, forget about your fears and introduce yourself to the girl you like. Or, if it makes it easier for you, find a common friend and let him introduce you to her. From then on, everything will be easier and you will surely find something to talk about.
If your shyness originates from your bad opinion of yourself, you have to work on building your self-confidence. First, find what is unique about you, find something you are good at and focus on that. Learn to love and appreciate yourself, and recognize what it is that makes you different from the others.
Don’t think about what you don’t like about yourself, and never compare yourself to others. Also, never think about what other people might think of you. Their opinion of you depends on how you appear to them – if you like yourself and feel confident, it is most likely that others will accept you the way you are.
The same goes for your looks; the better you look, the better you will feel. It doesn’t take too much money or time, just some good will and small changes in terms of your hair, make up or clothes, and you will have more self-confidence.
Positive energy is also important, so surround yourself with positive people. Taking up some course and learning something new, like cooking or painting will boost your self-confidence and your ego, too. Become involved in what suits you and be where you feel at ease, and it will surely make it easier for you to communicate with others and be relaxed.
Finally, remember that shyness is something you can change! It’s not what you are like, but rather how you feel in certain situations or with certain people as well as how you see yourself. Don’t be over critical about yourself and just relax; this will greatly improve your social skills and help you overcome shyness.